I AM the Holy Spirit. The devil does everything he can to destroy and divide families. Jesus said, "If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand." (Mark 3:25.) The devil knows, if he can divide the family, it will crumble. Therefore, it is important to safe guard your family from the enemy.
The best way to minister to a difficult family member is by representing Us. In order to represent Us, you must exude unconditional love. We are love. (I John 4:16.) You must be able to look through Our eyes and see those difficult family members the way We see them. We do not love a person's sin or rebellion, but We love the person unconditionally. It is not Our desire that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. (II Peter 3:9.)
Practice looking through Our eyes when you minister to difficult family members. Look for the gifts and treasures We have placed in those people. When you identify those gifts and treasures, call them out and speak them forth in words of comfort, edification, and exhortation. As you love with Our love, it will be like heaping coals of fire on their head. They will melt, and their heart will be softened. (Proverbs 25:21-22.)
25 And if a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.
I John 4:16
16 And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.
II Peter 3:9
9 The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.
21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat;
And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink;
22 For so you will heap coals of fire on his head,
And the Lord will reward you.